If you've been through a break up and want to get your ex back I completely understand how you feel right now. I know you may be in a world of hurt, but if you can find your way to see past the murkiness, pain and confusion you would actually see a world of possibilities.

This could be the best thing to happen to you for a number of reasons. So if you want to get your ex back I am going to tell you the right steps to take to do that, but along the way you will also get to have some adventures and perhaps discover new things about yourself and what you want from life.

I wandered around the internet for weeks looking for helpful advice and information on how to get your ex back, and there is plenty of good advice to be found.

And I summed up everything I learned at this helpful site:

 How To Get Your Ex Back - The Smart Way!


Now If you really love your ex and and want to succeed in winning them back then you will definitely have a better chance at making the relationship work the second time around with the advice from How To Get Your Ex Back - The Smart Way!

But if not, then it’s OK to move on. As I mentioned I also had been reading a lot of other great relationship advice in my quest learn more about how to fix relationship problems and the one book that impacted me the most was “Deserve What You Want” by Scot McKay.

“Deserve what you want” is the brain child of dating guru Scot McKay. He and his wife Emily, who he met successfully through online dating are making a difference in relationships by teaching people how to take personal responsibility for being the kind of person who is worthy of the fantastic relationship we want to attract. 

In Scots words:

 "If you are like me, you already sense that you've just got to BE the best partner possible in order to GET the best partner possible. Otherwise, the only real-world alternative (at best) is to 'settle' for a partner who disappoints you--and vice-versa. Millions of people live this kind of unhappy existence, drowning in pornography or soap operas in a weak attempt to vicariously live a dream which they have squandered. Knowing that real fulfillment is possible in a relationship, my passion is to help you make sure you are not one of the untold masses who 'settle'."

Scot McKay

Reading Scot’s book was such a breath of fresh air, very new and exciting. So many relationship advice books really give such manipulative, unhealthy advice and only leave you feeling more insecure about yourself and your ability to attract the opposite sex.

Scot's advice will help you to see whether or not your ex has too many deal breakers, instead of deal makers for you to be able to recommit to a relationship, and if you would be better moving on instead of settling. And you will have so much new found confidence in your ability to attract an incredible relationship that it won't be painful to think of getting out in the dating world again.Reading “Deserve What You Want” along with Scot and his wife Emily’s dating course newsletter series and listening to the free podcasts will open up a treasure box for you of all the relationship attracting and understanding secrets that have been alluding you all these years.

Boy was I ever fumbling in the dark in my dating and relationships. It was like I got a glimpse into a whole new world of possibilities into romance and amazing relationships.

I actually was able to change my poverty mindset from believing that good men or women are few and far between and that good relationships are a stroke of luck, to absolutely believing that I deserved the best relationship possible and I could and would actually attract a great partner.

Now if after reading this you still want your ex back and he or she is a person deserving of your love and respect, check out How To Get Your Ex Back - The Smart Way! for the best advice on how to do that.

But if you realize that you are actually settling, even though you didn't see it before or don’t want to admit it. Please don’t settle! 

Even though it may seem easier right now to just settle for what you thought was OK, be honest with yourself for a bit and think about a lifetime of failed relationships, or a bad or mediocre relationship just because you didn’t think you could do better or didn’t want to make the effort to try for more.

I highly encourage you to read Amy Waterman's article listed on the sidebar to help you really decide if your relationship is worth it or if you deserve better.

So if you really want to know the answer to all your problems with relationships, whether you want to get your ex back, mend your broken heart and move on, or start fresh and believe that you can find a great partner and have a storybook relationship, the one of your dreams, I hope you will embrace this fresh new concept in the dating/relationships world, the idea of “deserve what you want”.

And if you really want to get back together with your ex, you have to start with you. And if I was to sum up the best approach altogether it would be exactly what Scot McKay says, you have to take responsibility to become the type of person that attracts the relationship you want. 

To learn more about "Deserve What You Want" I would highly encourage you to sign up for Scot & Emily McKay's free Relationships/Dating mini-course.  

You'll get lots of great advice and info, and you will also find out more about the "Deserve What You Want" concepts. You'll also receive Scot's free ebook "Dealing With A Breakup".

Women click here to sign up

Men click here to sign up

Or if you want to get even more info you can check out the "Deserve What You Want" Website.

I hope you found this letter helpful and that you have let go of any thoughts of trying to manipulate, argue, coerce, plead, or beg your ex to come back, as it will not work and only makes you come across as needy, desperate and unattractive.

You definitely deserve the relationship of your dreams, and it’s time to think instead of empowering yourself with knowledge and the confidence to become the type of person who “deserves what you want”.

I wish you all the best,

Claire